As I've mentioned in the past, the wait time for a China adoption is ever increasing, and we are years out from a "healthy" referral. After we began the adoption process, we felt we were being lead to opening up our application to special needs. This process entails a checklist of sorts where you and your spouse agree (hopefully) on which special needs you are open to. When we originally completed this additional paperwork and application, we checked the box that we were open to cleft conditions (lip and / or palate). Over the course of the past month or so, God has been opening our hearts to this special need more and more. We have been able to connect with families from our adoption agency, and we have "stumbled" across some amazing blogs of families who have adopted little ones with cleft conditions. There have been a few other things that are molding our hearts as well that perhaps over time will be shared here.
In November, we also had an opportunity to share our adoption journey with our church family (for Orphan Sunday). From a timing perspective, it was good to sit down and reflect on our journey to date and anticipate what is to come ...
From November 2011:
Our “official” adoption journey began in January 2009. However, we began discussing adoption a few years prior to that. At that point adoption was our “Plan B.” We would pursue adoption IF we didn’t get pregnant again. After losing Owen, it became increasingly clear to us that adoption is not God’s Plan B, nor should it be ours.
God does not make mistakes. And He does not need a backup plan. Adoption was not God’s plan B. We had seen adoption to be a second choice after biological children. But, just as God designed some families to grow through biological children, He has also designed some families to grow through the miracle of adoption.
Our dossier is in China, and we have been on the “wait list” for approximately two and half years. The wait time for a little girl from China is increasing every day. There are many circumstances that could determine when our little girl will officially join our family, but we know that it is God’s will and His timing that will determine this. While we wait God is working in ways only He can. This little girl already is part of our family and holds a piece of all of our hearts. When the boys talk about our family, they list out themselves (Jack and Samuel), Owen, Lydia and China Girl (this is how the boys started affectionately referring to their one-day sister shortly after we began the adoption process).
As we are waiting on God’s perfect timing, please join us in praying for the orphans, in praying for the birth mothers who carry these babies, and the birth parents who make the unimaginable decision to give these children up.
